Life Discovery


Ever feel like your life is happening to you rather than you creating it for yourself?

A few years back I did an exercise with a life/business coach called the Lifestyle Discovery exercise. It was an activity that asked a bunch of questions about areas of your life. By the end of the questionnaire, I had a very vivid picture in my head about my life. I can’t explain how good it felt but I left that session feeling renewed and inspired.

This is a discovery process in which you start to visualize the type of life you’ve always wanted.

I believe in the power of the Law of Attraction and I believe that we all have the power to focus our thoughts and intentions to get the things that we want – in this case, your dream life.

So I’ve decided to give the exercise another try.  Back when I first did it I don’t think I was truly ready to embrace everything that this exercise had for me.  Now that I’m older and in a different mindset I’m ready to take on this challenge.

It’s really fun and very easy to do…so let’s get started!

How does it work?

The idea behind the lifestyle discovery activity is that our minds are what really shape our reality. Therefore, if we train our minds to focus on what we want instead of focusing on the things that we don’t want, subconsciously or consciously, we will be able to attract the things we want to ourselves

This activity will help you focus.

If you are like me and are working towards a goal, it can be easy to get distracted. Having a copy of this exercise with me helps me to focus or in some cases refocus on my goals.

You will gain clarity.

I am a multi-passionate entrepreneur at heart. Which is exciting and fun but also very draining at the same time.  Sometimes my mind goes in a million different directions.

This exercise has helped me gain clarity on what activities I should be focusing on and what activities can wait.

How to do it

Step 1: Get in a distraction free zone.

This means if you have kids you may have to wait until they fall asleep or you might have to wake up extra early. Turn off the tv or radio.  Do whatever works for you.  The important thing is you need to be in a place that is comfortable and distraction free.

Get out several sheets of paper and get your favorite pen or pencil.

Step 2: Create

Create a picture of your ideal lifestyle. Use the questions as a guide. Start visualizing what you want your life to look like. You need to be as detailed as possible. For example, does your question have you in your favorite coffee shop? Well who’s in there with you, what are you wearing, what perfume do you have on, what color are your shoes, what do you see when you look out the window…be that specific.

The important thing here is that you start to create a very vivid and highly detailed picture in your mind. The more detailed your answers are the better.

DO NOT and let me repeat this very important step DO NOT hold back or limit your imagination. This is a no judgment, anything goes free zone so have fun. Assume money is not an issue i.e. you have plenty.

Step 3: Remove Doubt

Read through your picture, asking: “where have I not dreamed big enough? Where have I not been honest? Am I holding back?”  Modify accordingly…

Step 4: Remove OPO

Remove Other People’s Opinion.

Read your lifestyle design again and this time ask the following question – “What is truly important to me on this list?”

Some things you’ve written are central to who you are as a person and your values. Other things on your list might be what other people deem as valuable. We don’t really care what they want – this exercise is all about YOU!

Circle or highlight the things that are really important to you and cross out what is not important to you.

The Questions

Self Care

How many massages per week? What kind of body do you want? How’s your diet? How much peaceful time? How much sleep do you get? How do you dress?


Where do you want to live? What type of house? On the water? In the country? Friendly community? What lighting, artwork, flowers, smells? Your yard? How tidy is the house? Do you have a cleaner? Someone who shops for you? Who does the washing? What car do you drive?


What kind of partner are you looking for?What kind of commitment do you want to make – an exclusive relationship, or one where you explore other relationships? Kids?

Friends and Family

How many friends do you want in your life? Are they interesting, creative, warm, open? Ideally, how
would your relationship with your mother look? Father? Siblings? (Don’t let your history block you here. Create the ideal relationships!)


For this exercise, remember you have plenty of money so you don’t technically need a career.
In your perfect world, is there a job you would enjoy? What service or product would you provide? What kinds of things have you enjoyed in past careers, or do you think you would be good at? What kind of people would you work with? What hours would you work? Work from home, or in a really funky office building with a slide down the middle?


What do you do for fun – garden, paint, photography, crafts, visit museums. When you gather with friends or family, what do you like to do? Do you travel? Where; how often? What do you do when traveling? What do you do for adventure?

A Cause/Purpose

What do you strongly believe in? What do you love? What do you hate? How would you contribute? What legacy would you like to leave behind when you die?

< Download the questions here>


Give this fun little exercise a try and see what you can come up with.


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